Editor's Note:

I wanted to make this edition of Reflections a little lighter and the Three Amigos (our intrepid male contributors) came through in spades. I figured there was enough doom and gloom out there, so a little lightness was in order. This month Alex writes an amusing story about a recent client session, and incorporating NLP with EFT. Dave writes about his newest "toy" - all I can say about that is, "Give a man something that has wheels and makes noise, and he's happy!" Tom talks about the training he has received in Eden Energy Medicine. I was delighted to read Tom's impressions because the courses and their presentation sound spot-on. I write about how our world can change in an instant, and often, the change is for the better. Enjoy!

Tips to Enhance an EFT Session
by Dr. Alexander R. Lees

I'm sure that most thinking people realize that EFT is a tool. It is an excellent tool when used as designed, namely removing an unwanted emotional response regarding some issue, situation or circumstance.

Those that have been reading the newsletter for some time will realize a tool is as good as the person's ability to apply it. This is the "art of delivery" aspect, and there is no substitute for good training, unless one believes removing a spark plug from a lawnmower with the suitable wrench makes one a mechanic.

With that in mind, I'd like to share certain aspects of a client session using EFT and the addition of some NLP training.

"Pam" entered my office and after taking a moment to survey the couch and overstuffed chair, elected the latter and plunked herself down. "As I mentioned on the phone," she began, "I've been using EFT for a while, and I do get relief, but then the problem returns again and again. What I need is some help."

Immediately, well almost immediately, several of my few remaining grey cells kicked in, and zeroed in on, the discrepancies within Pam's offered statement.

"First of all, please show me the points you are tapping," I said.

Pam did reasonably well, but missed several by a few inches, so we spent a few moments ensuring she now knew where they were. After several practise rounds, I declared, "Excellent! You now have the mechanics down pat. Now, tap a round and say your reminder phrase out loud, if you would." The reminder phrase was This problem, this problem. When she was finished, I offered her feedback. "You probably know the names David Lake and Steve Wells, do you not?" "Oh yes," she said enthusiastically. "Well," I continued, "they advocate tapping the points even without a reminder phrase, especially if you do many rounds, then it will be quite beneficial. From my experience with many clients, I happen to agree with them."

Pam jumped in with, "Oh good! I like those two!" By referring to Steve and David in this manner, I was using a concept called lost quotes - an NLP term for assigning value or a source to an expert(s) hopefully known by the recipient. This particular use of lost quotes also placed Pam and I in an agreement frame (a yes! frame) which translates into even better rapport.

"Now," I continued, "if Steve or David were here, do you know what they might ask you next?"

Pam's slight head shake and the expectant look on her face told me: She was interested in hearing what they might say (receptive). And, we still had excellent rapport.

"I would guess one of them would say, "Well, tapping on the points and saying, This problem will certainly help, but if you could be even more specific, I'm sure you would get even more relief."

"I hate that!" Pam blurted out. "Everyone tells me to be more specific, more specific, more specific. I'm really quite a specific and clear thinking person." (Phew, I thought to myself. She's really mad at David and Steve - you just have to love this lost quotes business.)

 

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"Okay," I said to Pam. "Neither of those guys have met you, so they probably don't know that, but, since you're here with me, now, and not them, I believe you are clear enough to take a moment and label the problem even more specifically."

"Of course I can," Pam said, beginning to recover. "I'm fine when I meet females for the first time, but I come unglued when I meet a new guy." "I'll let the twits in Australia know that," I mumbled.

"Don't you like them?" Pam asked. "Not really," I said. "Last time I saw them, they gave me a boomerang. I tried throwing it away, but the darn thing keeps coming back." After she stopped laughing, Pam was back to her engaging self, so we continued.

"Tap a round using, This feeling I get when I meet a new guy," for me, would you?" I asked. When Pam was finished the round, I said, "Pam, the whole time you were tapping, I noticed your eyes constantly darting up to your left (visual remembered) and then up to your right (constructed imagery). Do that again, without tapping, and as you do, allow that clear mind of yours to notice, simply notice, exactly what you are seeing in your mind."

Pam's look told me I'd simply confused her, so I tried another tact. "I want you to imagine a scene where typically, from experience, you are meeting a new guy, and as you do that now, simply notice what other images it evokes for you."

After a few moments of silence and reflection, Pam suddenly snapped back and said, "Oh My God! I see myself looking awkward and uncomfortable. Then I see a whole bunch of negative stuff that's going to happen!" (Guided imagery gone awry, said the little voice in my head.)

"Okay Pam, the first image, the one you see before your eyes, shifts to making movies of what might happen. I assume you are remembering something you actually experienced, and it seems to now be in your reference library for similar future events, like meeting a new guy, and what will happen. I want you to stare at that picture, and we'll tap while you're doing that. Let's use the phrase, This image," I offered.

Pam immediately responded with, "Let's use This embarrassing image." We did a round using her phrase, and waited.

"You know, I was only 15 at the time," she began, "and it's like every time I meet a guy, I'm back being 15, and screwing it up." "Let's tap for her, the 15 year old," I suggested. After a round for My poor 15 year old part, we followed up with: This embarrassment, this embarrassment. Again I waited.

"I'm starting to feel quite relieved, you know," Pam finally said. "I feel like part of me was stuck in time, but I'm beginning to think it was more silly than traumatic."

"I'll let the lads in Aussieland know," I said, which simply evoked more laughter.

Pam then went and saw Berit to make an appointment for the next week, and I went for a cup of tea before the next client arrived.

So yes, EFT is a great tool - but do yourself a favour. If you get stuck, consider taking some training, say a seminar or workshop, to help you develop your skills in using it even further.

Meanwhile, the rest of this edition of Reflections contains an article from Tom, whose back in Spain after even more training with Donna Eden, and enthusiastically shares his thoughts about that. David outdoes us all by introducing us to his latest toy; after all, it's almost summer time, and time to lighten up a bit - a talent David has in spades, followed by Berit's spirit lifting take on Susan Boyle and going for it. And, for those of you new to Reflections, at some point you may want to take some time to peruse the archives of Reflections on our website at http://www.dralexlees.com/newsletter01.html After all, it's been around for a long time (16 years) and there's plenty of useful information to assist you. Enjoy!


So -- Everyone wants to know how bad the economy is.
They want to know how far down the chain it has penetrated.
Well, just HOW BAD IS THE ECONOMY?
It is definitely getting very bad.

Cats are so dramatic.


Contributing Columnist Dave Marshall is retired and lives in Spain. Before his retirement he was in the corporate world in the UK, and also taught NLP (he's an NLP Master Trainer). Visit his website at www.nlpman.eu which has a ton of free information on NLP and lots of other good stuff.

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Roomba, Scooba & Dirt Dog
A life changing experience, or how we gained an extra day a week to sit in the sun!

by David Marshall

It was last November and I saw something on TV that has changed our lives. All I had to do was invest £150 (approx. $225 USD), but in what? Another course, more therapy, yet another get-rich-quick scam off the Internet, more EFT, advanced NLP? Well, no, none of those - in fact nothing like any of those.

It is a robotic floor cleaner that I just happen to catch a description of on TV. It wasn't even a demonstration, it was just a guy holding this round thing telling you that it is a Roomba floor cleaning robot and it will clean all the floors in your house. So that was it, I got straight on the Internet and searched it out. What a surprise! Of course, I found lots of references to this product, all of them saying how good it was. So I bit the bullet, and went on to eBay to see what was happening. I found one up for auction and put in a bid. I got it for £150.

My wife does not really go for techno gizmo stuff and thought that this was just another one of my gadgets that wouldn't really work. When it was delivered she read the description on the box and she said if it does half what it says on the box it's worth having! What a breakthrough!! And when we actually used it she was really impressed! The thing is incredible, just about 33 centimetres wide and ten centimetres deep (so it can get under tables and chairs). Underneath it has wheels and brushes, and round its edge it has various sensors. It has a base station that you plug into your electricity and it charges itself automatically. When you want to clean your room you put it in the middle of the room and press the "clean" button. It then has a look around, runs round in a spiral for a few moments, and then it charges off in a straight line until it hits something. Then it turns round and charges off again until it hits something else and so it goes. In 45 minutes a reasonable size room will be cleaned. When it has finished it will even go back to its base station to recharge.

We didn't realise how effective this was going to be, nor what difference it would make to our lives. Spanish houses get very dusty because of the dry atmosphere and so a lot of time was spent cleaning. We now have much more time because whenever we go out we can just put the Roomba on, and when we come back the room will be cleaned.

iRobot, the makers of Roomba, also make several other versions. One is called the Dirt Dog. This is not as sophisticated as the Roomba and is designed for workshops and patios. It will brush up coarser things like leaves, sawdust, small screws and so on. There is also another one called the Scooba which washes floors and this is really amazing. They all work on the same principle of detecting the size of the room and wandering round until they hit something and then changing direction. The impressive thing about the Scooba is how dry the floor is when it has finished. It has tank of soapy water which it uses to wash the floor and a drying action, which is a combination of a squeegee and suction and is quite surprising that the floor, when washed, is quite right dry.

After our experience with a Roomba I got straight back on to eBay and bought a Dirt Dog and a Scooba. I was lucky that I had an old American transformer that I was able to hook up so that they could be supplied with American electricity (110 volts). So now our patio is cleaned by the Dirt Dog, the conservatory and kitchen are washed by the Scooba, and our lounge, including the carpet, is brushed by the Roomba. That means we can go out and come back to a nice clean house!

When my wife was in England after Christmas she saw a special offer for the Roomba at £100 (approx. $150 USD) so she bought a spare! And my daughter bought two - one for upstairs and one for down. Now that is really ostentatious!

I don't usually give endorsements to products but the iRobot range is so good I just had to tell you about them. The regular price is not cheap, so look on eBay and you might be lucky enough to get a factory recon model at quite a bit off the normal price, or see the website for special offers.

You might not think that the time saved is worth it, but believe me, it amounts to over one full day a week to clean, wash and brush a house like ours, and that is well worth it! We now have more time to do the things we want to do rather spending time on doing things that we have to do. And of course, if you compare it to paying for a part-time human cleaner at £25 (approx. $40 USD) a week then the Roomba is free after a month!!

I might tell you about another good gizmo next time.



EFT World Summit

Update: The EFT World Summit was a HUGE success! In fact it was so successful that the servers crashed on the first day's presentation. As Nick Ortner (the producer of the event) wrote in an email: All 44,000 people registered for the event must have logged on at the same time!

Our congratulations to Nick and the whole team for dealing with the problem immediately (and they notified everyone saying they were working on the problem) and within an hour the problem was fixed.

We'd like to say a big Thank You to Nick and the team for including Alex as one of the presenters, and for producing such an excellent event... good job and well done!

Also, we'd like to thank the hundreds of people (it was a bit overwhelming) that signed up for our newsletter, inquiring about our workshops, and our counselling/therapy services. And, especially those that wrote emails saying great things about Alex. It's always nice for me to hear that my husband's doing a good job.


Dave Barry's Colonoscopy Journal
Dave Barry is a Pulitzer Prize-winning humor columnist for the Miami Herald.

I called my friend Andy Sable, a gastroenterologist, to make an appointment for a colonoscopy. A few days later, in his office, Andy showed me a color diagram of the colon, a lengthy organ that appears to go all over the place, at one point passing briefly through Minneapolis . Then Andy explained the colonoscopy procedure to me in a thorough, reassuring and patient manner. I nodded thoughtfully, but I didn't really hear anything he said, because my brain was shrieking... 'HE'S GOING TO STICK A 17,000 FEET TUBE UP MY BEHIND!'

I left Andy' s office with some written instructions, and a prescription for a product called 'Movi-Prep,' which comes in a box large enough to hold a microwave oven. I will discuss Movi-Prep in detail later; for now suffice it to say that we must never allow it to fall into the hands of America 's enemies.

I spent the next several days productively sitting around being nervous. Then, on the day before my colonoscopy, I began my preparation. In accordance with my instructions, I didn't eat any solid food that day; all I had was chicken broth, which is basically water, only with less flavor. Then, in the evening, I took the Movi-Prep. You mix two packets of powder together in a one-litre plastic jug, then you fill it with lukewarm water (for those unfamiliar with the metric system, a litre is about 32 gallons). Then you have to drink the whole jug. This takes about an hour, because Movi-Prep tastes - and here I am being kind - like a mixture of goat spit and urinal cleanser, with just a hint of lemon.

The instructions for Movi-Prep, clearly written by somebody with a great sense of humor, state that after you drink it, 'a loose, watery bowel movement may result.' This is kind of like saying that after you jump off your roof, you may experience contact with the ground. Movi-Prep is a nuclear laxative. I don't want to be too graphic, here, but....have you ever seen a space-shuttle launch? This is pretty much the MoviPrep experience, with you as the shuttle. There are times when you wish the toilet had a seat belt. You spend several hours pretty much confined to the bathroom, spurting violently. You eliminate everything. And then, when you figure you must be totally empty, you have to drink another litre of MoviPrep, at which point, as far as I can tell, your bowels travel into the future and start eliminating food that you have not even eaten yet.

After an action-packed evening, I finally got to sleep. The next morning my wife drove me to the clinic. I was very nervous. Not only was I worried about the procedure, but I had been experiencing occasional return bouts of MoviPrep spurtage. I was thinking, 'What if I spurt on Andy?' How do you apologize to a friend for something like that? Flowers would not be enough.

At the clinic I had to sign many forms acknowledging that I understood and totally agreed with whatever the heck the forms said. Then they led me to a room full of other colonoscopy people, where I went inside a little curtained space and took off my clothes and put on one of those hospital garments designed by sadist perverts, the kind that, when you put it on, makes you feel even more naked than when you are actually naked.

Then a nurse named Eddie put a little needle in a vein in my left hand. Ordinarily I would have fainted, but Eddie was very good, and I was already lying down. Eddie also told me that some people put vodka in their MoviPrep. At first I was ticked off that I hadn't thought of this is, but then I pondered what would happen if you got yourself too tipsy to make it to the bathroom, so you were staggering around in full Fire Hose Mode. You would have no choice but to burn your house.

When everything was ready, Eddie wheeled me into the procedure room, where Andy was waiting with a nurse and an anesthesiologist. I did not see the 17,000 foot tube, but I knew Andy had it hidden around there somewhere. I was seriously nervous at this point. Andy had me roll over on my left side, and the anesthesiologist began hooking something up to the needle in my hand. There was music playing in the room, and I realized that the song was 'Dancing Queen' by ABBA. I remarked to Andy that, of all the songs that could be playing during this particular procedure, 'Dancing Queen' had to be the least appropriate.

'You want me to turn it up?' said Andy, from somewhere behind me. 'Ha ha,' I said. And then it was time, the moment I had been dreading for more than a decade. If you are squeamish, prepare yourself, because I am going to tell you, in explicit detail, exactly what it was like.

I have no idea. Really. I slept through it. One moment, ABBA was yelling 'Dancing Queen, feel the beat of the tambourine,' and the next moment, I was back in the other room, waking up in a very mellow mood. Andy was looking down at me and asking me how I felt. I felt excellent. I felt even more excellent when Andy told me that It was all over, and that my colon had passed with flying colors. I have never been prouder of an internal organ.



Contributing Columnist Tom Dorzab is a retired biologist from Kansas and now lives with his wife in Spain. Tom followed his passion and is now an energy medicine practitioner specializing in Eden Energy Medicine.

You can contact Tom at tomdorzab@ya.com

Seminar Adventures in Eden Energy Medicine
by Tom Dorzab

I was very happy when Berit asked me if I was willing to write an article about the Eden Energy Medicine (EEM) seminars I so luckily attended in March. In order to bring you this current information, it will be necessary to postpone the final article on using neurovascular points for emotions until next month. So here goes. I have been happy to share some of the information I have learned through the EEM Certification Program and other EEM materials with the readers of this newsletter. It has been a great way to introduce a few of the concepts of EEM. For those of you who are interested in learning much more, there are a variety of ways available to you at the EEM website http://www.innersource.net/ and an introductory video. I was so excited that I bought virtually all the videos on the website. Then I watched, took notes and studied all the videos. Next I developed protocols based on the material and began asking for volunteers so I could begin practicing what I had learned. It wasn't long before the word had spread about how effective my sessions had been for my practice clients and I was soon practicing on clients for up to 40 hours per week at no charge to them. It not only convinced them that there was something very special about EEM, but I was hooked for life. The CP was my next logical step so I signed up for it when it first became available. I feel fortunate to have graduated in the first full 2 year class of the EEMCP.

My first up close and in person exposure to the people of EEM was not a disappointment. Before attending the CP, it is a prerequisite to first attend one of Donna Eden's famous 5 Day seminars. While I have been to seminars in the past where I have questioned the motives of the presenters, at the 5 Day, it was immediately obvious to me that Donna Eden didn't have an insincere bone in her body. I was home. While I had already made my mind up about the CP, it was nice to see that her principles of honesty and integrity were up to my standards. Not only did I have a good feeling about Donna and her husband David Feinstein, but the whole staff of teachers and my fellow students were also of the warm and fuzzy variety. Many of the people in that 5 Day also opted to join me in the CP. The people who didn't go were no slouches though. In fact, I still maintain long distance friendships will some of those people after seeing them only that one time four years ago.

After the 5 Day it was time for the CP. It consisted of eight classes spread over two years. Each class lasted four days and was jam packed full of valuable information. We had lectures that included the whole group and then we broke into small groups to practice and ask any questions we might have of our small group leaders. After each class we were required to complete a written exam and produce a video demonstrating the ability to make practical use of the material. After the last class, before being allowed to graduate, we were all given a practical examination by one of the teaching staff.

There are other aspects of the EEMCP that I will never be able to convey. They involve the energetic interactions of all the participants from the teaching staff to the students. It really was a magical time for me. Most of my life I have felt like the odd-man-out. I have always felt like I was different, that I really didn't fit in anywhere. That all changed with my introduction to EEM. I have found what I have been looking for all my life and it feels great! I have found another home and another loving family. Needless to say, the last class of the CP was bittersweet. I really didn't want it to end.

I am very happy to say that the story doesn't end there. In the CP I learned the basics. Anyone can learn and apply the basics and make a huge difference in people's lives. With the knowledge presented in the CP, one can become a proficient EEM technician. As much as I enjoyed the CP, I was in for a big surprise when I went to the Practitioner's Conference and an advanced seminar by Donna in July of 2008. It was wonderful to see many of my former classmates from the CP and the material presented was even more amazing than the CP. It can't possibly get any better, right? Wrong!

I attended two seminars in March of this year. One was Energy Medicine for Women for Instructors and the other was a trial or practice class preparing for the next level of certification which will begin in August. It's called the Two year Practicum.

The first seminar expanded on the EEM for Women material presented in the CP and also in the EEM for Women workshops that are now taking place. It was even better than I thought possible. I even got to be part of a demonstration. What's a man doing in a demonstration at an EEM for Women seminar? While the material dealt with women's issues, several of the techniques were also good for both men and women. I was chosen for showing how to enhance testosterone production. Now that's something I can sink my teeth into! Depending on the circumstances, it can also be beneficial for women. We really got into some fascinating material that I have incorporated into my practice.

The practice seminar for the Two Year Practicum revolved around giving sessions. We watched as three advanced practitioners gave sessions while explaining their rational for everything they did. Individual differences were incorporated into the styles they showed. The all had different personalities, they all approached the sessions differently, but in the end, they were all successful. They were EEM artists. Then the students gave sessions to each other under the watchful eyes of the teachers. It has changed the way I approach sessions and left me wanting for more. I can also feel the changes taking place in myself. I'm evolving from an EEM technician to an EEM artist.

I am filled with so much gratitude that I have found a life path in the form of EEM that not only has taught me how to help others in profound ways, but that also keeps getting better and better everyday. It's a combination that's rarely found.

I hope I have shed a little more light on the world of EEM and that many of you will take advantage of the extraordinary opportunity you have through EEM to really make a difference in the world.



Berit's Corner
Random Thoughts

I wish I could sing... but alas, I can't! When I was 13 my music teacher told me I was tone deaf and I almost flunked music that year. I only passed because I practised the recorder endlessly, much to my parent's dismay. It was also the same year that I realized I wasn't any good at math either and can still remember being hit on the head with a very large ruler by the math teacher. Thank heaven calculators were invented!

You might think I'd feel deeply demoralized by those two events and maybe even traumatized, but I wasn't. Instead I thought: I can still listen to music and appreciate it. Also, it wasn't the end of the world if I didn't understand geometry and trigonometry. Here I am almost 50 years later and I can't think of one time I needed to know anything about calculus.

On the other hand, it would be nice to be able to sing and carry a tune.

All these thoughts about singing came about when a woman from Scotland burst onto the world stage and sang. Susan Boyle is now famous all over the world (over 100 million hits on YouTube) and is hoping to launch a singing career at the age of 47. Susan's story is amazing, given the odds against her succeeding were slim.

In my opinion, there are two things in her favour - she has a truly amazing voice and she's "going for it." Susan made a decision to enter a talent contest in Britain, and as they say, the rest is history.

What magical ingredient does Susan have that has enabled her to go for it at this point in her life? I think it's her deeply held belief that despite all odds, she has a great gift and the world should hear her sing. I'm hoping her story will inspire all the other "Susans" (and "Sams") with whatever talent they have, and they too, go for it.

We're living through a difficult time right now, and there are some days where I'm sure some of us would like to stay in bed, pull the covers over our head and shut out the world. Problem is, the world would still be there when we finally crawled out of bed, and we'd still be in the same circumstances as before we hid from the world.

So, what to do? For starters, we can count our blessings and focus on what's good in our world. There's something to be said for just getting up in the morning and going through our day. We can stop worrying about "stuff," and when a situation arises that's troublesome, we just need to deal with it. We need to do whatever we need to do, and continue to live our lives. I realize this is easier for some, than others, but the alternative is not an option. We all know that things will change and we'll come out on the other side. That's how life works.

While we are going about our day, maybe we can pause for a bit and think of Susan. Maybe each of us has a song bird in our soul that's just waiting to get out and sing. If singing isn't your thing, something else probably is. The point is, if Susan can go for it, so can we. The odds may be daunting, but the alternative (doing nothing) is not an option. The seconds, minutes, hours, days, months and years, will still continue to march on. Which reminds me of a lovely saying about time that Alex is fond of using:

Time is priceless. Yet it costs nothing.
We can do anything we want with it. But you can't own it.
You can spend it, but you can't keep it.
And once you've lost it, there's no getting it back.
It's just gone.

So, why not do something useful, creative, enjoyable and downright fun with the time you have?!

Spring has officially arrived and it's a time for rebirth. I hope you will enjoy the birds singing in the trees and maybe sing a few bars of your favourite song.

Now, I'm going to have a shower and sing. No one will hear me so it won't matter if I can't carry a tune. It will be music to my ears.

Till next month, Take care.

Till next month,
Take care.





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Four worms and a lesson to be learned!!!

A minister decided that a visual demonstration would add emphasis to his Sunday sermon. Four worms were placed into four separate jars.


The first worm was put into a container of alcohol.
The second worm was put into a container of cigarette smoke.
The third worm was put into a container of chocolate syrup.
The fourth worm was put into a container of good clean soil.

At the conclusion of the sermon, the Minister reported the following results:

The first worm in alcohol - Dead

The second worm in cigarette smoke - Dead

Third worm in chocolate syrup -Dead

Fourth worm in good clean soil - Alive.

So the Minister asked the congregation, "What did you learn from this demonstration?" Maxine was sitting in the back, quickly raising her hand she said,

"As long as you drink, smoke and eat chocolate, you won't have worms!"

That pretty much ended the service…


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