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an EFT Expert Thinks How an EFT Expert Thinks in an EFT Session - Part 3 of 3 Part 3 - The Movie Technique Continued In the previous session we found the Movie Technique was an effective tool to help Alice talk about her difficulties. When an individual uses global descriptions when talking about his/her issues, this may be an indication that the person is dissociated. It is useful to remember that nothing is written in stone when it comes to therapy. However, the astute student of human nature begins to notice patterns. Global descriptions are a pattern quite often indicating dissociation, and if this proves to be the case, then the introduction of the movie technique is an effective way of achieving progress. Alice began this session by reporting that she was sleeping better, and after some probing questions were answered, I shifted the focus. "Now that you are feeling better, getting a good night's sleep and you seem much more resilient... where would you like to start today?" I asked. "I'd like to fix
it some more," she replied. This statement was accompanied with a shift
in physiology. Alice had "tightened up" again. "Okay, fix it some more
it will be. Let's continue the movie," I stated as I gestured towards
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"It hasn't happened yet," Alice offered in a timid voice. "What hasn't?" I asked gently. "When he comes over and uses the knife... I'm so scared," she finished. Note: You
may remember in the last session Alice mentioned that she was terrified
because he said he'd use a knife on her face. Alice was so frightened
at that moment, I quickly approached Alice and tapped her for her fear.
She felt a little better after the tapping but there was so much to
work on during that session, that we didn't completely deal with the
issue of "using the knife." Now was the time.
"That's definitely a scene we want to edit," I began, as Alice interrupted with, "I know it hasn't happened yet, but it plays over and over in my mind, and it just won't stop!" she gasped. "I want you to run that part from beginning to end, over there (gesturing again) on the wall. Run it in black and white, from beginning to end, and in super fast forward. Pause it on the final scene. After repeating the above details for her, Alice complied. "Okay. It's paused," she said in a quiet voice. "Now, imagine floating into that screen, over there on the wall, and as you do, everything goes white," I instructed. "In a few seconds the white all around you disappears, and you find yourself in your body in the 'pause' scene. Everything returns to natural colour as you live the scene backwards, really fast. Everything that happens now happens in reverse, right back to the beginning." I had Alice do this twice, as the first run wasn't as satisfactory, from her feedback, as I wanted. After the second run, Alice seemed a bit lost when I asked her to run the scene in her mind. "It's, er, kind-of fragmented, maybe vague, but there's no feelings that come up, really. It's just an unpleasant thought, but it's easy to shift my attention, " she finished. "All right, now you can realize from your experience, we can do something about this after all. How do you feel about contacting the police now?" I asked quietly. "I think I can. I think maybe it's time," she said. Alice booked several more appointments and we will continue to clear the incidents that stand out for her concerning this dysfunctional individual. My aim in writing
these articles was to demonstrate the value of learning the movie technique,
with its variations. Once you are familiar and comfortable with it,
you can integrate it into a session with a client, or use it on yourself,
whenever appropriate. Please remember, the more tools you have, the
better the chances you will have for success.
Leftovers
Leftovers
in their less visible form are called memories. Stored in the Each
new season grows from the leftovers from the past. Bruno's commentary: All of us, without exception, will someday need leftovers in our lives. Weeks of illness, days of grief, times of loneliness, moments of rejection will bring us pain, frustration, and maybe anger. Taking our leftovers from the good times and transforming them into memories of our high moments will help us deal with our inevitable setbacks. Good "leftover discipline" will help us get through the challenges of life. Are you having a difficult time right now? Think of the good times!
You can contact
Rehana at webstar@ps.gen.nz
Breaking Down the Movie Technique Note: In last month's and this month's edition of Reflections, Alex wrote about doing the Movie Technique with his client Alice. Rehana thought it might be helpful if she gave a brief outline of some of the things that you may want to pay attention to, and try, while using the Movie Technique for your self, or when helping others. The Movie technique is a very powerful way of changing our internal experience. With some additions to this technique some wonderful results are achieved. I use this technique and get excellent results with some of the most difficult trauma cases. The special sensory qualities perceived by each of the five senses are known as sub-modalities in NLP lingo. For example, Visual sub-modalities include color, shape, movement, brightness, depth, etc., Auditory sub-modalities include volume, pitch, tempo etc., and Kinesthetic sub-modalities include pressure, temperature, texture, location, etc. We experience the outside (and inside?) world through our five senses. Sub-modalities can be described as the structure of each sense. While we can't change the actual experience of something that has happened in the past, we may be able to change how the experience is structured and therefore how the memory is experienced or remembered. The impact of this is profound. If you have a memory that is remembered as a picture you are very likely to be able to change the experience of that memory by changing the brightness, distance, or focus, of that picture. For instance take an unpleasant event for which you want to neutralize the negative feelings. Turn it into a movie. Give it a title and decide on the length and determine who is starring in it. This will allow you to view the movie from 'third position.' So you will be watching yourself in the movie. This will distance you from the actual event. It will allow you to become dissociated from the happening, and therefore experience the event differently.
You can try all the variations listed below: Make the movie Black and White. Recall the last time you saw a B&W movie and what the quality was like. Notice how the definition between the foreground and background was not distinct. Run the movie as many times as you want and rate it every time. Run the B&W movie backwards like rewinding a video. What did it look like with everything going backwards? Rewind the movie and rate it till you are satisfied with the results. Make the mental movie into a cartoon. Do you have a favorite cartoon show/character or had one when you were young. Turn your movie into a Technicolor cartoon and have the players represented by Bugs Bunny, Popeye, Mickey Mouse, Wiley Coyote, etc. Add music to the movie. This can be done at any stage. Choose something like Polka or rock 'n ' roll. Adjust the volume of the music, or hear it in one ear and then the next. Another variation to use is if you are hearing a phrase rather then seeing the event, adjust the sub-modalities of the auditory experience. Make the sound louder, softer, slower, faster. Change the voice to Donald Duck. Test and retest your work. Rate the mental movie after each version. Notice what works best.
Berit's
Corner Meanwhile, we're pleased to announce the book Freedom At Your Fingertips (Alex is a co-author) is now available and you can purchase it from our website or on Amazon.com. A big Thank You to all of you that purchased the book on the launch date... you helped to make the book a best seller! I hope you enjoy all the gifts you received and we would appreciate hearing your feedback on the book, and specifically Alex's chapter. As some of you know, Alex is a very private man and generally doesn't talk about his own "stuff." So, writing about his own story was a new experience for him. He felt it was time to share his story because after mentioning that he has leukemia to some people, they expressed an interest in what he has done to help himself, and also suggested he share his knowledge with others. They felt it could help other people in like and similar circumstances to hear about an individual that is not only surviving, but thriving! Alex doesn't think he is unique or special. He just practises what he preaches :-) By deciding to let people know about his own circumstances, Alex hopes he can help other people do the same as he has done, and is doing. The information and the tools to help yourself, are readily available to everyone. I think all that's needed sometimes is to make the decision to do whatever is necessary, to help yourself. Whether you're having a bad day, have had an accident, lost a loved one, or been diagnosed with a disease, you can do an amazing amount of things to help yourself. Hopefully just reading Alex's chapter will inspire and motivate you! Rehana, our friend in New Zealand sent me a link to Bruno Gideon, the author of the 1 Minute Email. Bruno is an interesting man and I find his 1 Minute Emails arrive just at the right time, each time. If you would like to receive an encouraging few words that only take a minute to read please visit his website at: http://www.brunogideon.com/whatis1minuteemail.html As my mind wanders to picking paint colours for our new offices I realize I have to finish this newsletter... I hope you have a fun-filled month of May and I'll "see" you next month from my new office!
Take care,
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Contributing
Columnist Rehana Webster (in New Zealand) is an EFT Master and NLP Master
Practitioner, and also conducts seminars/workshops internationally.
Imagine that the movie is on a TV screen at the further end of the room.
Run the movie and notice how it feels and where you may be experiencing
higher amount of distress.
I
have to admit to being a little pre-occupied... I'm supposed to be doing
work "stuff" and I'm thinking about moving. We have three weeks to go
and then we'll be in our new house!
Summertime
is rapidly approaching and we will be in our new home in time to enjoy
it. I look forward to sitting in our new backyard which is as big as
our old one so the doggies have plenty of space to play. I'm also looking
forward to planting a new garden. We'll take a break from doing workshops
during the summer (start up again in the Fall) and, of course, this
will be the perfect time for me to start painting the whole inside of
the house!
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