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an EFT Expert Thinks How an EFT Expert Thinks in an EFT Session - Part 2 of 3 Part 2 - The Movie Technique In the last edition, I introduced Alice. I also invited the reader behind the scenes, as it were, and introduced you to some of the mental 'maps' that guide a session. In that article, we found Alice responded well to metaphors. We left off with the knowledge that whatever issue Alice was seeking help with included a male, and something about the relationship was a main issue. Because Alice's countenance offered strong indicators she was dissociated, I decided to work with her in that state. The movie technique allows for that to occur. Alice was again seated in my office. I reminded her that we were going to do the movie technique and said, "Over there on that wall, I want you to watch a scene from your life that you would like to edit. I want you to see yourself, over there (gesturing towards the wall) with this fellow and tell me what happens to her, the girl in the movie." "He's beating her with his fists," Alice said in a voice that was almost a whisper. The 'whisper' spoke volumes. "And what would happen if you spoke up and told someone?" I asked gently. |
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"He said he would really hurt her," Alice replied, still in the dissociative state. "Did he tell her what he would do specifically?" I probed, hoping for more information. "He said he'd use a knife on her face," she replied and both hands shot to her cheeks as she began sobbing. Quickly rising out of my chair and approaching her I said, "Let me show you the editing buttons." We tapped a round using the phrase "this fear." Alice interrupted about half way through with, "I'm terrified!" We began again, using "This terrified feeling." I waited a moment, and Alice said, "Okay, I'm not as terrified at the moment, but this won't make him stop." "We'll get to him later," I said firmly. "Right now, my concern is you."
We continued with the movie technique on various scenes of violence Alice had experienced with this fellow, each time tapping as each unwanted emotion came up. Alice supplied the words, and we simply used them for phrasing. It's most beneficial to use the client's words as the client knows what the words mean to her. Occasionally, the memory presented was extremely intense, so we varied the approach by tapping for the girl in the scene, a form of tapping a person while allowing her to remain in the dissociative state. This concept is not quite 'borrowing benefits,' but can be quite effective on a person that is so dissociated. At the end of two hours, Alice was clearly exhausted. "How are you doing with the guy in your head?" I asked gently. "He's still there, but this is really weird. He's much further away and I'm not as afraid. Actually, I think I'm angry." The movie technique is indeed a wonderful tool for someone 'outside of their body.' Dissociation, is in my opinion, a defence mechanism, a way of separating from terrors, fears and pain. The move technique allows the practitioner versatility, and is just another tool to allow you to join and accept another's model of the world. In the next edition: Resolution for Alice.
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Chasing the Pain, Uncovering and Overcoming the Emotional Cause I was presenting an EFT Level 2 Workshop recently and asked if any of the participants had a pain we could work on to demonstrate the 'chase the pain' technique. One of the participants, Andrew, said that he had recently developed a pain in his shoulders and neck. He came up to the front so we could work on the pain. We located the pain precisely and noticed that it was more on the left shoulder and neck. We then rated it at 10 and tapped on the pain in the neck and shoulder.
After a couple of tapping rounds using the shortcut we rated the pain and it had gone down from 9 to 7, to 6 and then changed location. We followed the pain around the shoulder area from left to right shoulder and back again. It had completely disappeared from the neck. The intensity still remained at 4 in the left shoulder so I then asked Andrew, "Do you think there may be an emotional component to the pain in your shoulder?" 'Yes, it's my sister!' he replied. He was going to be meeting up with his family and was dreading it because the youngest sister, Pam (now 50) was a real pain in the neck. Andrew said that Pam was manipulative and made all the other siblings feel guilty because she was 'poor' and all the others had money because they had jobs and worked. We then tapped on the future meeting and how Andrew felt about "another dreaded annual event which would be the same as past ones with Pam trying to put the rest on a guilt trip." So I asked Andrew if he would like to role-play the up-coming event while we tapped on it. He was agreeable and told me what really upset him most was the statement that Pam frequently made to negate what others had to say:
In the role-play I introduced the NLP technique called matching and pacing, which could be very effective in the situation. To match and pace one is required to mirror back to the communicator, whatever their communication is. We agreed that I would pretend to be Pam and Andrew could practice matching and pacing. At first Andrew had a real resistance to using the matching and pacing technique. We rated the resistance at 9 and tapped on it stating:
After a few rounds of tapping Andrew was laughing and said he could hardly wait to try out the matching and pacing, I sat opposite Andrew as asked him to tap away while we role-played.
We repeated this several times and tried variations of it. I could see that Andrew was really getting the hang of this matching and pacing. After all he was agreeing 100% with Pam, so where was the guilt? It was down to a 0. The pain in the shoulder was also at a 0. After our workshop, Andrew could hardly wait to use his new skills. He was looking forward to the family gathering. His last comment before leaving was that he now had experienced first hand how EFT could be used to change feelings about the future. The negative trigger had been changed into a positive one. We had taken a future fear and changed it into a positive feeling. As we said our good
byes, we "YES, YESed" each other and laughed a lot. Email from Jodi... Jodi is a massage therapist and also uses EFT. She was delighted with a client she had the other day. The woman came to see Jodi because she had received a massage as a birthday gift. The woman had done a bit of EFT in the past and wanted Jodi to help her with quitting smoking. About half way through the Hot Stone massage Jodi incorporated some EFT. And, because Jodi had recently attended our Belief Systems workshop she also used the anchoring technique she had learned in combination with the EFT.
Receiving emails from people like Jodi really do make what we do worthwhile! Thank you Jodi for sharing your story with all of us. If you are visiting the beautiful Sunshine Coat in British Columbia, Canada and would like a wonderful, soothing Hot Stone massage, and maybe a little EFT with NLP, please contact: Jodi Burke Berit's
Corner After discussions with Gary Craig in which he explained he has had less than positive personal experiences with associations in the past, and he would not support an EFT Association, we decided in the best of interests of EFT, to discontinue all discussion re forming an EFT Association. As with any business or enterprise, especially when it grows in leaps and bounds, there are sometimes bumps along the journey. We felt the timing was right, based on many queries from people over the years, to start the dialogue regarding standards of training and levels of certification. And, we were very enthusiastic about helping to create, in co-ordination with others, those standards. The timing turns out to be incorrect and our enthusiasm was misplaced. This experience has been one of learning for us. Alex has been a successful psychotherapist for 20 years and has many "tools" in his therapist's toolbox. EFT is but one of them. He has seven years experience using EFT with his clients (over 5,000 sessions using EFT), taught hundreds of people EFT in our workshops, and we believe EFT is an effective and useful tool. We will continue to use it, teach it and promote it. As one door closes another opens. There are many wonderful opportunities ahead for us. For example, on April 25/06 a new book called Freedom at Your Fingertips will be released on Amazon.com and Alex is one of the co-authors. Each author has written a chapter and Alex's is about the Mind/Body Connection and the various techniques and tools he has used in his personal life, to help himself. Alex's story is a powerful one... I'm allowed to say that 'cause I'm The Wife :-) and hopefully people will find it inspiring. Take care, Happy
Easter!
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Contributing
Columnist Rehana Webster (in New Zealand) is an EFT Master and NLP Master
Practitioner, and also conducts seminars/workshops internationally.
"Even
though I have this sharp pain in my neck which radiates to my shoulder….I
accept and love myself." 
This
would get the desired response of making the rest feel guilty and they
would then give Pam money or gifts.
We
want to thank everyone that contacted us with words of encouragement
and support re the formation of an EFT Association.
We
are moving forward with new ideas and the plans are already in the works.
Frequent readers of our newsletter know how we like to tease you...
so on that note, we want to say... Please stay tuned for the next exciting
chapter. We're busy creating it now, and hope to have good news soon!
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