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Tranquillity I thought I would write something a little different because the lazy, hazy days of summer are upon us. It's that time of the year when a lot of people go on holidays. They go to the lake, to the beach, or to the country and kick back and enjoy themselves. But for every person having a relaxing time on their vacation, there's someone back in town... working. And, they are probably working harder than usual because they have to cover for their colleagues that are away! So, when the temperature heats up (both inside and out), and you're ready to scream, may I suggest you try the following... Tranquillity One As you allow
your attention, your soft focus of attention to wander skyward you can
notice the air is filled with rainbow lights and a shaft of white light
has found you. The light is brighter than a hundred suns. You feel it
warm the top of your head. Gently, penetrating, flowing through your
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Relax,
imagine you're lying in a great meadow on a perfect day. You can feel
the soft grass beneath you, a gentle pleasant breeze carries the scent
of meadow flowers and the sound of a babbling brook.
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This light continues to radiate throughout your body, passing down into your abdomen, through your legs and into to your toes. You feel you're brimming over with the light. You are the light and the light is you, the entire system is cleansed by the light. All impurities leave the body like smoke. You feel refreshed and joyful. Slowly and gently, begin to return to the here and now, and as you do, take a deep breath, and release it. Tranquillity Two Close your eyes and relax. Imagine your body consists of trillions of tightly packed cells. If you were to look at a sample of actual body tissue through a powerful microscope, you would discover that these cells are not so close together as you may have thought, in fact there is some space between them. Now, let some space creep back in between the cells. Create even more space between the cells than was there. All these trillions of cells now have room to breathe... to move around. Imagine all these cells in your body are beginning to move in a very rhythmic way. They are beginning to dance. You feel like a bottle of champagne that has just been opened. After you have fully experienced this joyful dance and only as fast as you can, retain the joyful feeling it has left in you, bring yourself back to your surroundings and slowly open your eyes. When your colleagues come back to work and ask how things were in their absence, you can just smile and looking very relaxed, say, "Things were great, I even had time to go dancing!" I hope you have a great summer, whatever you're doing, and wherever you are!
Rehana Webster is an EFT and NLP Practitioner, and also conducts seminars/workshops internationally. You can contact Rehana at webstar@ps.gen.nz or visit her website at www.behaviourchanges.com
V is in her late
40's and had several partners, especially after her marriage ended.
She came to see me about some EFT sessions and the pressing issue was
one about picking the wrong partners. She was currently in another one
of many relationships which was causing her much anguish and emotional
upset.
I asked her to tell me what she thought the problem was (after tapping on several other issues) and she explained to me that she is an assertive, person, outgoing and friendly. She is attracted to men who admire her assertiveness and outgoing nature, however some time into the relationships things change and these partners turn the table and want her to take on the passive role. In telling me her story V spontaneously made mention that she felt like the lioness on her circus stool and the partner like the lion tamer with his whip and chair in hand. She feels like she is hunched on her hind legs, snarling and baring her teeth while the partner is cracking his whip at her. I casually wove the lioness/tamer into the statements and we tapped on:
The effects on V were brilliant. She lit up like a bright light and laughed saying, "I'm going to look for lions from now on rather than tamers!" I've used metaphors with clients before, however this session with V really highlighted the effectiveness of metaphor use. Clients can be helped if you ask them, "What nursery rhyme or Aesop's fable does the situation remind you of?" They usually know best!
Great Technique for Anger Management When you occasionally have a really bad day, and you just need to take it out on someone, don't take it out on someone you know, take it out on someone you don't know. I was sitting at my desk when I remembered a phone call I'd forgotten to make. I found the number and dialled it. A man answered, saying "Hello." I politely said, "This is Chris. Could I please speak with Robyn Carter?" Suddenly a manic voice yelled out in my ear "Get the right f**ing number!" and the phone was slammed down on me. I couldn't believe that anyone could be so rude. When I tracked down Robyn's correct number to call her, I found that I had accidentally transposed the last two digits. After hanging up with her, I decided to call the 'wrong' number again. When the same guy answered the phone, I yelled "You're a jerk!" and hung up. I wrote his number down with the word 'jerk' next to it, and put it in my desk drawer. Every couple of weeks, when I was paying bills or had a really bad day, I'd call him up and yell, "You're a jerk!" It always cheered me up. When Caller ID was introduced, I thought my therapeutic 'jerk' calling would have to stop. So, I called his number and said, "Hi, this is John Smith from Telstra. I'm calling to see if you're familiar with our Caller ID Program?" He yelled "NO!" and slammed down the phone. I quickly called him back and said, "That's because you're a jerk!" One day I was at the store, getting ready to pull into a parking spot. Some guy in a black BMW cut me off and pulled into the spot I had patiently waited for. I hit the horn and yelled that I'd been waiting for that spot, but the idiot ignored me. I noticed a "For Sale" sign in his back window, so I wrote down his number. A couple of days later, right after calling the first jerk (I had his number on speed dial, ) I thought that I'd better call the BMW jerk, too. I said, "Is this the man with the black BMW for sale? " "Yes, it is", he said. "Can you tell me where I can see it? " I asked. "Yes, I live at 34 Mowbray Blvd, in Vaucluse. It's a yellow house, and the car's parked right out in front. "What's your name? " I asked. "My name is Don Hansen, " he said. "When's a good time to catch you, Don?" "I'm home every evening after five." "Listen, Don, can I tell you something?" "Yes?" "Don, you're a jerk!" Then I hung up, and added his number to my speed dial, too. Now, when I had a problem, I had two jerks to call. Then I came up with an idea. I called Jerk #1. "Hello, you're a jerk!" (But I didn't hang up.) "Are you still there?" he asked. "Yeah," I said. "Stop calling me, " he screamed. "Make me," I said. "Who are you?" he asked. "My name is Don Hansen." "Yeah? Where do you live? "Jerk, I live at 34 Mowbray Blvd, Vaucluse, a yellow house, with my black Beamer parked in front." He said, "I'm coming over right now, Don. And you had better start saying your prayers." I said, "Yeah, like I'm really scared, jerk, " and hung up. Then I called Jerk #2. "Hello?" he said. "Hello, Jerk, " I said. He yelled, "If I ever find out who you are. . . " "You'll what? " I said. "I'll kick your arse," he exclaimed. I answered, "Well, jerk, here's your chance. I'm coming over right now." Then I hung up and immediately called the police, saying that I lived at 34 Mowbray Blvd, Vaucluse, and that I was on my way over there to kill my gay lover. Then I called Channel 9 News about the gang war going down in Mowbray Blvd, Vaucluse. I quickly got into my car and headed over to Mowbray. I got there just in time to watch two jerks beating the crap out of each other in front of six cop cars, an overhead police helicopter and a news crew. NOW I feel much
better. Anger management really works!
If you were to ask many people, "Is your business quieter in the summer?" the answer is usually, "Yes." That's generally the pattern of July and August. Whoever runs our universe must have thought we wanted to work just as much this summer because July was as busy as June! No slow-down for us... until we finally got some summer weather. It is now the beginning of August and everything is flowing into a slower rhythm. It's so nice to wake up to sunshine every morning, and also sit out in our back yard till 9:00 or 10:00pm enjoying the warm, balmy evenings. The lazy, hazy days of summer indeed! I'm enjoying a mini holiday as I have the house all to myself... it's just me and the doggies. Alex has left for San Francisco to attend the first ever "EFT Masters" program with Gary Craig. I would have enjoyed going with Alex and spending a few days "playing" in San Francisco, but decided to enjoy five days of doing nothing, absolutely nothing! I'm going to sleep in, lay in the sun, play with the doggies, go for walks, read and do nothing. My idea of heaven! ! By then we laughed ourselves silly and solved all the world's problems! It's like being a teenage again and having a sleep over... all you ladies out there know what I'm talking about, don't you :-) ! Once Alex gets back from San Francisco our friend Rehana Webster from New Zealand will be arriving to spend some time with us. Then our friend Ann Adams from Georgia, who is doing a cross country road trip of the US is going to make a detour up to Canada and park her RV in our driveway. We are going to have a lot of fun in August! ! After that it will be time to get in gear for September and two workshops, then more workshops in October and November, and before we know it, it will be Christmas. Slow down... that's a long way off, and right now I'm going to focus on my mini holiday... I'm going to take the doggies for a walk, then order a pizza, pour myself a glass of wine and watch a "chick flick." If I'm not tired after all that I'll read in bed. A perfect way to spend a lazy, hazy summer day! ! I hope you're enjoying your summer and you get to have some lazy, hazy days too! ! Till next month,
take care. !
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You
feel the warmth caressing the inside of your body, flowing down the
neck and chest. Radiating into your arms, all the way to your fingers.
Now,
imagine the cells are being crushed together, from head to toe, your
body is a tightly packed mass.
You
can feel this dance of life from head to toe. Each and every cell in
your body is participating in this dance. Dancing to the rhythm of life.
You feel full of energy... joy bubbles in you.
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This
was a perfect example and opportunity for me to take the metaphor generated
by the client and use it with the EFT set-up statements. A metaphor
is a figure of speech in which a word or phrase literally denoting one
kind of object or idea is used in place of another to suggest a likeness
or analogy between them. Metaphors (client or therapist generated) are
an excellent tool in therapy.
Berit's
Corner
One
thing I am looking forward to (other than the above mentioned) is a
visit from my friend Tamara. She's coming to stay for a couple of days
and who knows what mischief we can get into. Because we only see each
other a few times a year (she lives in Washington State) we usually
end up talking 'til the wee hours of the morning.
Two
elderly ladies had been friends for many decades. Over the years,
they had shared all kinds of activities and adventures. Lately,
their activities had been limited to meeting a few times a week
to play cards.
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